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The Story of My Father

A Memoir

by Sue Miller
Sue Miller
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In the fall of 1988, Sue Miller found herself caring for her father as he slipped into the grasp of Alzheimer's disease. She was, she claims, perhaps the least constitutionally suited of all her siblings to be in the role in which she suddenly found herself, and in The Story of My Father she grapples with the haunting memories of those final months and the larger narrative of her father's life. With compassion, self-scrutiny, and an urgency born of her own yearning to rescue her father's memory from the disorder and oblivion that marked his dying and death, Sue Miller takes us on an intensely personal journey that becomes, by virtue of her enormous gifts of observation, perception, and literary precision, a universal story of fathers and daughters.
James Nichols was a fourth-generation minister, a retired professor from Princeton Theological Seminary. Sue Miller brings her father brilliantly to life in these pages-his religious faith, his endless patience with his children, his gaiety and willingness to delight in the ridiculous, his singular gifts as a listener, and the rituals of church life that stayed with him through his final days. She recalls the bitter irony of watching him, a church historian, wrestle with a disease that inexorably lays waste to notions of time, history, and meaning. She recounts her struggle with doctors, her deep ambivalence about many of her own choices, and the difficulty of finding, continually, the humane and moral response to a disease whose special cruelty it is to dissolve particularities and to diminish, in so many ways, the humanity of those it strikes. She reflects, unforgettably, on the variable nature of memory, the paradox of trying to weave a truthful narrative from the threads of a dissolving life. And she offers stunning insight into her own life as both a daughter and a writer, two roles that swell together here in a poignant meditation on the consolations of storytelling.
With the care, restraint, and consummate skill that define her beloved and best-selling fiction, Sue Miller now gives us a rigorous, compassionate inventory of two lives, in a memoir destined to offer comfort to all sons and daughters struggling-as we all eventually must-to make peace with their fathers and with themselves.

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    March 11, 2003

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      • ISBN: 9781415951590
      • File size: 157457 KB
      • Duration: 05:28:02

  • Languages

    • English

  • Reviews

    • AudioFile Magazine
      Novelist Miller shows here that not only can she write a fine and sensitive tale, but she can read it as well. Step by loving step, she takes us painfully through her father's descent into the mindlessness that is Alzheimer's. We learn of the disease and of her father--scholar, minister, singer of silly songs, a gentle counterpart to her outspoken and moody mother. Miller demonstrates in word and tone the bewilderment, anxiety, sadness, and sense of futility felt by all those close to Alzheimer's patients. From the opening description of the phone call from the Massachusetts police who have found her father wandering to the closing explanation of why it took over 10 years to write this story, we are taken on an intensely personal and revealing journey by a wise and intelligent guide. J.B.G. (c) AudioFile 2003, Portland, Maine
    • Publisher's Weekly

      January 20, 2003
      Miller's first nonfiction book (after While I Was Gone; The World Below; etc.), about caring for her Alzheimer's-afflicted father, is a rare example of an illness memoir with widespread appeal. Prospective readers need not have any interest in Alzheimer's; they need only have parents of their own to appreciate this testimony's dignity and grace. Miller's father, James Nichols, started showing signs of dementia in 1986, when he was picked up by the police after ringing a stranger's doorbell in the middle of the night, announcing he was lost. Miller's careful recounting of James's slow demise and progression through the various stages of an assisted living community are punctuated by pleasant memories and even humor, e.g., when James, a retired religious scholar, assesses his surroundings and comments, "No one ever seems to graduate
      from here." As she recalls childhood stories and family memories, Miller simultaneously offers a memoir of her own development as a writer. "his is the hardest lesson... for a caregiver: you can never do enough to make a difference in the course of the disease," Miller writes. "We always find ourselves deficient in devotion.... Did you visit once a week? you might have visited twice. Oh, you visited daily? but perhaps he would have done better if you'd kept him at home. In the end all those judgments, those self-judgments, are pointless. This disease is inexorable, cruel. It scoffs at everything." 11 photos. BOMC alternate. (Mar. 19)Forecast:Miller's popularity among women readers of literary works—many whom are probably dealing with aging parents themselves—could shoot this one onto bestseller lists, and Knopf shouldn't have trouble selling out its 75,000 first printing.

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